Children from birth to about 12 years are also captives
in their own homes.They are under constant supervision by their
parents.Children are continuously directed what to do and what not to do.What
to eat, what to wear and what not to.Every step is continuously supervised.This
supervision seems quite purposeful as children lack money to look after for
themselves on their own.But problem arises when parents go beyond their limits
in using their power to regulate their children.One common shortcoming among people is use of their
power freely.One needs strength of character to have all power and use it
untill essentially required .
Children are majorly scapegoat of the abuse of power
due to inability of parents’ to relate to their children.Parents believe that
younger generation has turned confrontational, aggressive and uncontrollable
sometimes. Parents do not usually realise the problem of failed relationships,
which arises from the lack of wisdom to assess the psychological traits of
their kids.Parents operate from emotional pressures arising from their attached
sentiments towards their children, almost choking children with their ‘ love’ and ‘ care’.Thus parents need to realise their weakness of suffocating them with love and do
a carefull study about the individual nature of their children.
Children are neither burdened about worries of past nor have any anxities about future and
thus have tremendous energy , on the other hand adults are burdened with worry
and anxiety making them tired and fatigued. Both the young children and adult
are completely unaware of this disparity between them. The solution is not in
choking childrens’ actions but in giving their tremendous energy a proper
direction.
Beside the differences in energy levels between the
young and the old, there is also difference
in their temperaments also. Children have natural ability to learn new
concepts and ideas sooner than their elders. This explains their attachment to
newer trends and fashions earlier than grown-ups. Parents take time to accept
and absorb anything new.This disproportionality
in time for imbibing of new
ideas/ ways of living causes generation gap.
Hence it becomes the parents’ prime responsibility to
realise and repect the existence of the natural disparity of levels both in the
physical and mental makeup of young generation and the old. Regrettably, the
well-wishing parents also fail to acknowledge the existence of these dazzling
differences in nature.Instead , they treat this harsh problem with an iron
hand.
However, if parents desire their young generation to adopt a better lifestyle, change from
indescent way of living to a disciplined way of living, they must have and live
with values themselves. They must set an example of living the higher values of
life.But parents themselves do not set an example and keep on ordering children
to be disciplines.There lies double fault and this can’t that way.
It is rightly said that “ you can’t clap with one
hand.”
Albert Einstein had rightly quoted that “ setting an
example is not the only means of
influencing others, it is one of the means.”
This type of generation gap also exist in corporate
life of children when they grow up and face difficult situations while dealing
with senior colleagues of almost double of their age and also for aged working
staff when he/she had to handle team of young adults in their early twenties.
It becomes prime concern of HR department that
misunderstandings if anyare timely
settled for the well being of both aged
staff and young generation staff.
